Category: Creativity

Why You Can Benefit from Reflecting on Your Former Self

I admit, I have a hard time being present in the present – I’m constantly thinking ten steps ahead, and I’m often reflecting on the past. This quality can be a blessing and a curse, but I used to believe it was only the latter. It’s not particularly healthy or practical to go through life always thinking about the future or living in the past. For a long time, I fought against my impulse to plan ahead and my tendency to reminisce.

Recently, I started to explore the benefits of looking forward to the future and back to the past. It’s easier to see the potential payoff of the former. Most things in life can benefit from some sort of “future planning,” from making dinner to building a business. On the other hand, seeing the advantages of reflecting on the past is a little more challenging. Sure, we don’t want history to repeat itself, and we could all do to learn from our past mistakes. However, constantly thinking about the past can spark regret, remorse, or a longing for a life that no longer exists.


In all my days spent reminiscing, I’ve been guilty of pining for the “good old days” of my youth. The last time I started to spiral down the road of yesteryear, I didn’t stop myself or beat myself up for getting nostalgic. Instead, I decided to dig deeper. I stopped focusing previous cities, past friends, and old haunts and started focusing on who I was during that time. I began tapping into my former self – looking through old photos, reading entries in old notebooks, and listening to old music. After about a week of devoting some time each day to this internal exploration, I found myself reconnecting with my former self and bringing her into the present.

As I’ve continued to approach the practice of reminiscing differently, I’ve noticed the presence of several selves living within me simultaneously, reuniting like old friends who had dearly missed each other after being apart for years. I’ve felt more energized, full, and content. I feel like I’ve found parts of myself that were lost.

My experience aside, here’s why I believe you can benefit from reflecting on your former self: when we’re in our youth, we’re typically more creative, imaginative, adventurous, spontaneous, and open-minded. The moment we’re thrust into adulthood, those youthful qualities tend to dissipate, and we become more practical, logical, and judgmental. Taking time to reflect on, tap into, and reconnect with my former self has helped to reignite some of those wild, hopeful, and youthful ideals within me. So, next time you find your mind wandering to the past, don’t shy away – dig deeper.

After writing this post, I discovered this interesting article on a similar subject that was published on the Freelancers Union blog back in 2015. Take a look if you’d like some additional reading on the topic of nostalgia and creativity from a more scientific perspective!

Creative Habit: Build Your Creative Muscle

Sometimes our best creative ideas come from a spark of inspiration. Something ignites a creative fire within us, and we have to capture it right then and there. We run to our nearest notebook, we pick up a camera or a canvas, or we rush to record a voice memo. Sometimes, creativity flows from us, so much so we can barely contain it. But most of the time, this is not how creativity works.

Whether in our jobs or in our personal creative endeavors, we’re often called upon to be creative. We have to write creative content for a product description, design a captivating visual for a marketing campaign, or compose engaging talking points for a conference. In these moments, we not only have to be creative on the spot but also have to draw creative inspiration from an external source instead of from within ourselves. This is when we must have our creative muscle fueled and ready to work, and this is why making a habit of being creative is so imperative.

Twyla Tharp Quote 2016

When we’re required to be creative, our imaginative juices often seize up or become stifled. It’s tough to do any work under pressure, let alone be creative under pressure. If you make a habit of being creative and consistently tap into your creativity, you’re helping to develop your creative muscle so it can be equipped to perform on command.

Next time you’re called to be creative, turn to the creative habit you’ve established and flex your creative muscle. Move your body, whether you’re just getting up from your desk, stretching, and going on a short walk or whether you’re taking a yoga or spin class. Simply change your surroundings without intensive movement. Go to a museum to soak in other creative works, draw in an adult coloring book, listen to one of your favorite playlists, or read a book by one of your favorite authors. Talk to others and observe their language, mannerisms, and quirks. Most importantly, have faith in the power of your creative muscle and its ability to perform.

If you simply wait for creativity to happen – for that creative spark or lightning bolt or trigger – you’re missing out on a lot of creative opportunities. Creativity is always available to you. The more you use your creative muscle, the stronger it becomes.

Need more help building your creative muscle? Explore the entire AOC Blog Creative Habit Series or tweet me using the hashtag #AOCBlogCreative Habit.

Creative Habit: Start with a Jar

Growing up as an only child, you get very creative at finding ways to entertain yourself. One summer, on a particularly long and lazy day, I remember starting an idea jar. I carefully cut several pieces of paper into small strips, grabbed a box of crayons, and started writing down every activity I could possibly think of. Then I went to the kitchen cupboard, grabbed a mason jar, and filled it with all the little strips. After taking some time to make an elaborate label for the jar, I gave it a shake to mix up all the creative goodness. Time and time again, I returned to this jar, usually out of boredom but sometimes out of the thrill of letting the fates decide how I might spend my afternoon. I continually added to the jar whenever a new idea struck me, and the possibilities grew and grew.

As a self-employed individual, it’s often challenging to know how to productively use breaks throughout the day. Most times, I’ll turn to whatever book I happen to be reading or my coloring book, or, if weather permits, I’ll go outside and take a short walk around my neighborhood. But lately, I’ve been looking for something new, and I remembered the idea jar I created when I was a kid. I immediately had an ah-ha moment: I need an adult creativity jar.

mason jar square


So, I reverted back to my eleven-year-old self. I carefully cut several pieces of paper into small strips, grabbed a box of crayons, and started writing down every creative exercise I could possibly think of. I started with each creative habit I’ve shared in this series – it seemed like the logical jumping off point. Then I continued to brainstorm and get specific – go outside, sit in once place for fifteen minutes, and write down at least fifteen observations… take a book from the shelf, open it to a random page, choose a word or phrase, and start to free write… pick a playlist, put it on shuffle, and dance it out to at least three songs (thanks for the idea, Jess Grippo!).

For this month’s AOC Blog Creative Habit Challenge, start with a jar and fill it with every creative exercise you can possibly think of. Get started with the concepts from this series, then let the ideas flow from there. I’m always on the hunt for new creative activities and sources of inspiration, so please share one of the original ideas from your creativity jar using the hashtag #AOCBlogCreative habit.

Creative Habit: Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

As much as I’m artistic and right-brained, I’m equally logical and left-brained. I’ve spent much of my life mediating a war between the creative and the control freak within me. Common sense has talked me out of numerous leaps of faith. Any friend or family member would probably say I’m one of the most cautious and least impulsive people they know. Yet when it comes to written language, from poetry to the writing on this blog, the right side almost always wins. The world may not always be my playground, but words most definitely are.

Ultimately, when I find a balance between the two sides, I feel it’s a pretty spectacular combination. I possess a little more restraint than the super-artistic and a little more imagination than the ultra-rational. As a creative entrepreneur, the blend of right and left brain usually works to my advantage. But, when it comes to just wearing one hat, namely my creative hat, I’ve rarely been able to completely silence the judgmental murmur from the other side. A part of me has always longed for that reckless abandonment that so many creatives possess.

Comfort Zone


This year I’ve somewhat unintentionally started to break down these left-brained barriers. I let spontaneity in before logic had a chance to shoot it down. I made same-day plans with a friend, something many people do on the regular but something I’d sworn off since high school. I bought a plane ticket less than 24-hours before the flight departed, and the only downside was that I flew Southwest, missed the 24-hour check-in, and got assigned to group B, number 17. I invested in a DSLR two days before my first NYFW, and instead of letting the beast of a camera intimidate me into submission, I strapped the sucker on and took my first amateur photos from the second row of a runway.

I know plenty of people who consistently make last minute plans, take unplanned trips, and make big purchases on a whim, but I am none of those people. To me, these recent happenings were genuine feats, and in doing them, I finally got to experience that rush in throwing caution to the wind. I truly feel and believe I’m evolving into a better creative person because of it.

So for this month’s AOC Blog Creative Habit Challenge, do something that makes you scared or uncomfortable. Conquer your own fears, push your own boundaries, and get out of your comfort zone. We’re all different, so remember that your exploit may seem easy or commonplace to someone else. As always, I love to see you share your experience using the hashtag #AOCBlogCreativeHabit. For more creative challenges, check out the full series.

Creative Habit: Make Time

For the past five months, I’ve given you a variety of ways to make a habit of being creative – spending more time enjoying your natural surroundings, working with your hands, coloring, writing, and reading. When you take a moment to think about it, there’s no shortage of activities to get your creative juices flowing. What I’ve realized in taking my own creative challenges is that I’ve neglected the number one reason that inhibits us from accessing our creative selves: time. As a whole, we don’t make enough time for creativity.

Making time for creativity always seems to fall to the bottom of our never-ending to-do lists.  I think it comes down to the age old battle between subjectivity and objectivity. Measurable tasks inevitably take top priority in our schedules: a project with a deadline, a launch that’s crucial to achieving a monthly goal, a deliverable owed to a client. Creative tasks are often more challenging to measure – with creativity there’s not necessarily an end goal or even end product. You’re rarely getting pressured or paid to be creative. Creativity doesn’t have a particular due date. You may be starting to wonder why should make time for creativity in the first place!

Make Time for Creativity 2016

Indulging in your own creativity may be just that – a luxury, like ordering a decadent dessert. Maybe you just simply enjoy the times when you get to be creative, and you deserve to make time for the things you enjoy! On the other hand, getting creative can be more than a leisure activity. Creativity can be an asset to your livelihood, your relationships, and your life. Opening your mind to creative thinking can help you to solve problems and spark ideas, and it allows you to open yourself to new possibilities. Earlier in this series, I discussed how judgement is the enemy of creativity, and judgement goes hand in hand with the objective tasks that rule our lives. We are constantly critiqued, and making time to tap into creativity allows us a reprieve from judgement by others and, more importantly, ourselves.

Before we embark on another Creative Habit Challenge, we need to vow to ourselves and to each other to make time for creativity each month this year. Will you close out each month with a creative ritual? Will you set aside a Saturday just for creativity? I want you to share how you’re going to make time for creativity – head to Twitter or open your Instagram app, use the hashtag #AOCBlogCreativeHabit or #MakeTimeforCreativity, feel free to share the graphic featured in this post, and tell me how you’re going to make time for creativity each month in 2016!